The easiest way to get someone out of your life is to erase their memory. Usually this includes taking everything that reminds you of them and throwing it in the trash.Personally I would prefer dramatically screaming out of my window tossing everything out, but I am against littering and the dramatics. I don't understand the point of getting rid of anything. People forget that the material items mean absolutely nothing compared to the memories. Think about it, attached to that item is a memory and lets say you keep that item in a special place in your room, so you get rid of the item, but every time you look at that empty spot, your going to think of what was there and then it leads to that memory all over again. So you are going to remember them regardless unless you are gonna throw away your brain (I don't recommend).
I suggest keeping everything. Why? because getting rid of it will lead to regret in some cases and in others why give them the satisfaction that they got all their stuff back. I have created some categories to figure out what to do with them.
Pictures
Pictures are always awkward and the only thing I can think of doing with them is keeping them in a box. Forget the photo albums, in a box is best. Do Not Burn or Throw Them Away!!! Why Not??? Because you never know when you might want to look back in your life. Sure that guy may be long gone, but still. And now we have the wonderful invention of FaceBook so you know they will be floating in cyberspace whether you un-tag them or not. One day you might look back at them and laugh and talk shit about the guy that fucked up your life for a moment and how you grew from it.
Facebook
I have grown to hate FaceBook. Sure it is nice to keep up with people from you past and stalk the people in your future, BUT our generation is too hung up on the social networking. This is one thing that I suggest you did get rid of/ altering. The downside of Facebook is the whole relationship status. Mine is currently set on NOTHING which is good. After me and the guy broke it off it went from "In a Relationship with..." to NOTHING. Don't let people see your status. They wait for the chance to go from "In a Relationship" to "Single." Everyone waits for that and people are so noisy they like to post comments on your wall like, "I am so sorry," or, "What happened?" LIKE ITS THEIR BUSINESS!!! So to eliminate these questions just set it to nothing. His can go to single, but your goes to nothing, why because nothing needs to be sad.
The other thing about facebook are those pictures that you have saved in your photo albums. I would keep those just because pictures are good. You never have to look at them again if you don't want to and believe it helps to keep them were they are. It shows that you are the stronger person and whether he is in your life or not, you had him once, and everyone will know it. When it comes to tagged pictures, keep them as well. There has to be a better story behind them besides the fact that he is in the picture as well.
Now... some may call it childish or stupid, but deleting someone or blocking them from facebook may help. I know I had to do this with my ex. Some may not have to, but because I didn't consider him as a friend let alone a boyfriend, I first deleted him from my friends. Then I just found myself looking at his page all the time and his fiancé's (yeah, LONG story), so then I had to block them both. This may not have to be the case with everyone, but I got hurt bad, really bad and cutting him off from facebook has helped me in ways you couldn't imagine. It took some will power to stop from going back and unblocking them, but I did it.
Numbers
When it comes to phone numbers I have two suggestions.The first is to keep them. Keep them so when they call you, you know who is calling and decide to either answer or ignore. The second would be to delete their numbers. Deleting the numbers gets them out of you phonebook so that when you scroll through it, you never have to see their name.
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This was the second to hardest thing for me to do. Ignoring the guy was easy. Staying in touch with his friends that I like, that was easy. But trying to forget him was hard. I still think about him time after time, but not as much as I used to and not with as much hate either. Like I said before, unless we can take out brains out, the memories are the biggest things to get over while the materials are just there in place of the person.
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